Here are some books we recommend. A lot of these helped us personally through our midlife singleness. Some of these we wish we had known about. Some we wish had existed at the time. We provide affiliate links for some of these. Purchasing through these links costs you nothing extra. It does, however, enable us to continue providing quality content.
These books are important because thriving as a single adult requires growth and self-improvement.
The Five Love Languages, Revised Edition, Large Print
By Gary Chapman / Christian Large Print
I believe that one of the reasons I ended up single again in my forties was because I failed to understand these things. It is important to know what makes you feel loved and what makes those around you feel loved. Learn these things before you get married.
His Needs, Her Needs–Revised and Expanded
By Willard Harley / Revell
We all have basic needs that if left unfulfilled can wreck havoc on ourselves and our relationships. Again, it is important to learn these things while you are single, long before you marry.
Every Man’s Battle with Workbook: Winning the War on Sexual Temptation One Victory at a Time
By Stephen Arterburn & Fred Stoeker / WaterBrook
Every Woman’s Battle with Workbook: Discovering God’s Plan for Sexual and Emotional Fulfillment
By Shannon Ethridge / WaterBrook
These two books deal with another issue that must be dealt with if you are to be successfully single or hope to be successfully married. Getting married is not a cure for lust. Get this right before you marry.
100 Answers to 100 Questions to Ask Before You Say “I Do”
by Lila Empson and Amy Hagberg / Christian Life
One of the biggest mistakes people make when dating is becoming too physically involved way too fast. Closely related to that mistake is a failure to communicate about the most important things in life and relationships. Not clearly expressing your expectations about handling money, raising children, sex, and several other key issues can sabotage a relationship. It’s not that you must agree on everything, but at least you should know where the honest disagreements are found. You should know each other’s expectations and beliefs on a whole host of important subjects. The act of talking together about these things in-depth leads toward real intimacy. Anita and I spent many hours going through this book and wholeheartedly recommend it.
Things I Wish I’d Known Before We Got Married
By Gary Chapman / Northfield Publishing
Don’t wait until after you get married to find out what you did not know. Start preparing while you are single.
Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus
By John Gray / HarperCollins
Here again, lack of knowledge hurts many relationships. This can often be avoided with a little knowledge, this time of gender differences. This book deals in generalities and will not apply 100% to every relationship. However, I found it very valuable. These are good things to be aware of.
The Total Money Makeover: Classic Edition: A Proven Plan for Financial Fitness
By Dave Ramsey / Thomas Nelson
One of the most important life skills for thriving as a single or married person is learning to properly handle money. It is very attractive to potential spouses who know how to handle their finances and it relieves some of the financial pressure that drives people to marry for the wrong reasons (i.e. financial need).
Check back often. We will be adding more books to this list as we become aware of them and have the opportunity to properly vet them.
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