Marriage | Is It Still Relevant Today?

Marriage | Is It Still Relevant?

Yes

Let me answer the question up front and succinctly – YES. Marriage is still relevant, desirable, and a necessary pillar of civilization. If it crumbles, so does our society. Continue reading “Marriage | Is It Still Relevant Today?”

Make Your Next Relationship Last

Make Your Next Relationship Last

Relationships

Do you know fellow singles who seem to go through relationships like you go through jeans or shoes? They go through a cycle. First, they get all excited about the new. Then they enjoy the comfort of the familiar. But eventually, they toss out another old worn and tattered relationship and go shopping for a new one. Continue reading “Make Your Next Relationship Last”

How Can I Trust Again After My Heart’s Been Broken?

How Can I Trust Again After My Heart's Been Broken?

Trust Again?!?

Can I ever trust again? That was one of my biggest post-divorce questions. After going through such a huge betrayal, is it possible to once again trust someone with the level of trust it takes to make a marriage thrive? Continue reading “How Can I Trust Again After My Heart’s Been Broken?”

Are They Marriage Material? Check Your List

Are They Marriable? Check Your List

Make a List, Actually Two

How do you know if someone is marriage material? How do you know if you should go on a date with them? It depends on what you value – check your list. Continue reading “Are They Marriage Material? Check Your List”

Encouragement For Singles Who Want to Marry

Encouragement For Singles Who Want to Marry

Today I have a little encouragement those of you who are single and looking, single again, or just feel like you have been single way too long.

A Bit of My Story

When I found myself divorced at forty years of age, I thought my prospects were pretty bleak. There I was, brokenhearted, introverted, rejected, and not particularly good-looking, yet desiring to, at some point, remarry.

A few years later, I also found my income reduced. So, possessing neither lots of money, loads of charisma, nor lavish good looks, if I didn’t feel hopeless before, I sure felt hopeless then. Continue reading “Encouragement For Singles Who Want to Marry”

3 Things Marriage Can and Cannot Do For You

3 Things Marriage Can and Cannot Do For you

A Wonderful Institution

Marriage is a wonderful institution, but who wants to live in an institution? -Groucho Marx

So goes the old joke, but as it turns out, a lot of people do want to be married. Yes, there are more people waiting longer to get married, and there are always those who, because of their parent’s divorce or bad breakups of serious relationships, fear marriage. But still, a lot of people dream of marriage and happily ever after.

The Problem of Expectations

The problem is that a lot of people go into marriage with totally unrealistic expectations of what marriage will be like. They see it as the answer to all of life’s problems and believe it will somehow magically make all of their issues disappear. Continue reading “3 Things Marriage Can and Cannot Do For You”

6 Tips For Singles Who Desire Marriage

6 Tips For Singles Desiring Marriage

You Don’t Have to be Married to be Valuable

Being single does not make you a lesser person than someone who is married. You are not of lesser quality, of lesser importance nor of lesser value to society and to God. You have intrinsic value, a value that goes far beyond having more free time to volunteer.

Most of the single people I know are intelligent, personable, and reasonably attractive. A lot of single people I know excel at and advance in their career. Many single persons lead very satisfying and fulfilling lives. For many, money is not an issue. The things that most people rely on a wife or husband to do they have found a way to have them done or to do them themselves. Yet many of you, despite your accomplishments and your hard-won independence, have a nagging desire. Continue reading “6 Tips For Singles Who Desire Marriage”

Want to Get Married? Part 2 – Why?

Want to Get Married?

In part one, I asked – Do you want to get married? My question today is – Why?

Why do you want to get married? The answer to that question can make all the difference in what type of marriage you eventually create.

Continue reading “Want to Get Married? Part 2 – Why?”

Want to Get Married? Part 1

Want to Get Married?

We are now living in a time of upheaval and shifting social norms. Gay people want to get married. Married people want to get divorced. Divorced people seem pretty divided on the subject of getting remarried. Single people are waiting longer to get married and many people eschew the idea of marriage altogether.

Do You Want to be Married?

This post and the next will ask two very important questions. Do you want to be married? And, why?

Let’s begin at the proper starting point. Do you really want to be married? This is not a trivial question and not necessarily the case. Continue reading “Want to Get Married? Part 1”